How to Thrive: Wisdom from Steve Jobs

Lately there have been several people in my life who have been very ill, and more elders are passing to the other side. Mortality has crossed my mind more than a few times. Steve Jobs shared how to thrive:

“When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: ‘If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself, ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘no’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” 
– Steve Jobs

Looking around at my peers, this is the time when I should be getting ready to rest back and enjoy the fruits of my labors, wait for grandchildren, plan for a few vacations each year. However, I made several choices along the way that place me in what I call the “Late Bloomer” category.

Don’t get me wrong. I’ve done a lot of things in my life that have helped me grow, have stretched me, and that I’ve enjoyed. I’ve learned that failures have gemstones hidden in them that sparkle in the pursuit of new goals. My community work, helping people gain clarity in their lives and build their dreams, gathering stories and messages to inspire and empower others — these have brought me much happiness.

But life hasn’t been a straight line. It has been a winding road with lots of rocks to turn over and boulders to get around while building my muscles and gathering resources and clarity. Hard work and perseverance don’t deter me, but nowadays I prefer to find more leveraged ways of doing things whenever possible.

If Today Were The Last Day Of My Life Steve Jobs 07872 by Baylan Megino

If Today Were The Last Day Of My Life Steve Jobs 07872 by Baylan Megino

Relationships of all kinds have been the biggest challenge for me, because I have to show up. I’m sure there’s a trail behind me from when I’ve been too afraid to show up, to speak up, and to trust my value. And I gained wisdom from each one: how to be better, what I want (and don’t want), the importance of listening, the value of an open mind and heart, healing through compassion.

I wouldn’t change any of it, truthfully. I just refuse to let obstacles and setbacks get me down for long.

Steve Jobs had it right. Each day we have a choice to make. I ask myself,

Does what I am doing today bring me more of what I desire in life?

Even when I’m not clear on the details of my dreams, I know in my heart and in my body whether or not I’m moving in the right direction, building a life in which I will thrive. And if not, then I’m going in a different direction, and this must be noted. There’s a reason why I’m in this situation, and I’ll know when it’s time for a change.

There have been times in my life when I’ve had to sit on the sidelines while tending to others’ needs. There have been relationships to grow and nurture, knowledge to acquire, new skills to hone, wisdom to gather. In these situations, I’ve learned patience.

Everything in its own time.

Eventually a different choice must be made, and dynamics will shift. Life will begin to flow in a different direction. Change will be inevitable, and it will be time to dust off the wings and fly.

The Entrepreneur’s Journey: The Risk It Took To Blossom

The Entrepreneur’s Journey is not a straight path. Anais Nin wrote, “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

The Risk It Took To Blossom, photo by Baylan Megino

The Risk It Took To Blossom, photo by Baylan Megino

My life had a fairly straightforward beginning, and the American Dream was the lifestyle I was encouraged to build. By my early 30’s, I had the loving husband with a steady job, a family, a comfortable home, the cars, the great job. I even had community involvement under my belt.

But something was not right.

My normally happy, calm outlook had become spiked with occasional fits of temper, which confused me.

I sought help in understanding what was happening, and started seeing a counselor. Those sessions helped me to see myself and my situation with clearer vision and understanding.

LIfe had become an endless round of work – home – work – home – community – work … of fulfilling roles, obligations and  duties.

At one point in my life, I had sought refuge and solace in attending Mass every morning before attending classes. The calm, the routine structure, the expansive space, and the connection to God fed me deeply.

But at this point, my spiritual and life had become almost non-existent, because I was so busy taking care of everyone and everything else that I thought was important.

Wrong. It wasn’t working for me.

It was time for a major change, and managing relationship change was something that I was absolutely, positively not equipped for. After all, my mother married the man who took her on her first date! Though they remained faithfully married until his death 60 years later, I did not learn a healthy way to handle conflict in relationships.

The counseling sessions helped open the door for me to step back and start at Ground Zero — to look inside to find my thoughts and need for expression. Through painting and sculpture I discovered a hidden world within that showed me my feelings and the inner terrain of my being.

Through sharing I learned that I had something of value to express in the silence. Through writing I started to hear my own voice and to value the power of the word.

And through dance I had always been able to access my inner knowing.

I had opened the door to start exploring my life, to understand what I was all about and what I had built. Once that door was open, how I saw the world and how I navigated each moment would never be the same.

The tightly bound bud was starting to unfurl her petals.

 

Bridges, Healing and White Light Associates

Bridges symbolize connection between two places, two spaces, two peoples, two worlds. Many times I have said I am a bridge  – between generations, cultures, the physical and spiritual realms. I haven’t thought of it much for some time now, because I’ve been focusing on being the bridge, on healing, on being a White Light Associate.

Buildng the New Bay Bridge Jan 2012 IMG 6798

Building the New Bridge 6798 by Baylan Megino

Yet today I received two messages that brought bridges to the forefront. The message from “The Grandfathers” card spoke of “You, who have a foot in both worlds,” are able to help raise the level of hope in the world, and to build anew. The other was the article “Walking Between Heaven and Earth: The Babaylan Today,” which talks about the babaylan as a bridge in today’s world.

When I received my name, Baylan, those many years ago, I remember thinking how it seemed a heavy responsibility to help care for the world. At the time, I was still trying to figure out how to make sense and order of what I had built in my own individual life, much less have the time and energy to help others with theirs.

Then one day while visiting Sedona I asked my guides what I am here to do. “Help Others Shine Their Light,” they said. And when I asked what is the name of my company, they said, “White Light Associates.” They made it clear that they would be able to help more through my work.

It’s been years of understanding who I am in this life and what issues I need to address, and clearing the way for Baylan to show up in the world as a White Light Associate. Each time of peeling away the layers has allowed more of the real me to emerge. And what I’ve found so far is a greater understanding that each and every one of us is Love/Light.

We get to choose, consciously or unconsciously, how much of that light we let out into the world.

I see life as an on-going education in ways to be more of who I am here to be. Gathering the pieces (the “tools in my basket”) that I would engage to help others is an ongoing search. It was validating to learn ancient systems that explained what I had intuitively been doing.  It was empowering to learn how to balance the body and its physical and energy systems. Opening to communicate with other worlds and asking for assistance is a humbling experience. Learning to coach others helped me to organize ways of sharing my knowing so I could help others move through to shine their light.

Learning how to distill business systems helped me see how I could help those whose brilliance lies in other areas. Doing photography and videography projects continues to show me how to look at a different perspective, and how to communicate ideas in new ways. Doing community work helps me see various ways to serve, and to help larger groups of people. Social media helps me to expand my reach globally, and to the Filipino community,  and to understand how to connect and communicate messages in new ways. Doing interviews helps me to capture the stories and messages that will inspire and empower current and future generations.

The other day I was asked, “What is Baylan all about?” I had to pause, because every day the answer has new texture, new avenues. Yet, when you really get down to it, it’s all rooted in the same thing.

Whether it’s helping one get through some physical, emotional, or spiritual dis-ease, helping one create their life consciously for how they want to live it, helping one see the world reflected through different eyes, offering a helping hand to those who may have forgotten their light, helping take care of the business side so the creative is free to flow, and so others can do what they do best, helping people and organizations get their message out to the world, or helping capture messages and wisdom that will be available to others forever – it’s all rooted in the same thing. Helping Others Shine Their Light.

Heart of Hearts (partial) by Baylan Megino

There are many, many ways to help shine the light — ways large and small. And when there is more light in the world, the planet and all its inhabitants are able to heal that much more. And there is a greater possibility of peace on the planet.

When I meet someone, I look to see their light.

So I encourage you — today, go out and shine in any way that feels right. A word, a smile, a touch, a sound. In sharing, you are changing the vibration in the world, one person at a time. And in that moment of sharing yourself from this place of caring for the world, you join the legions of White Light Associates.

Thank you. And Welcome.

 

Hello world from Baylan Megino and Masterpieces

It’s time to step on the next leg of this journey!

First, I’m Baylan Megino. I was born in the United States, and am a Filipina American.  My mother was born here, so I am considered 3rd generation on her side. My father was born in the Philippines, so I am 2nd generation on his side. I like to say that I am a bridge between cultures.

You can see my work background on LinkedIn. I’ve worked in lots of areas: student housing, architure/engineering, international investment management and venture capital, construction, network marketing, project fundraising/development, marketing, and alternative healing.

While building a million-dollar residential remodeling company, I became involved in the entrepreneurial community. At the same time, I studied alternative healing and found a spirit connection and ability — and the meaning of my name.

I explored my life path and journey, and created my coaching and consulting business, White Light Associates. This spun off the marketing and promotion arm, WLA Global.

At the same time, I was working with my Filipino community. First with FANHS, the Filipino American National Historical Society (actually it’s much more fun than it sounds!), I met other Filipinos who were born and/or raised here. I continue to hear stories of how each meets the cultural bridge.

Then I became involved with community advocacy through NaFFAA, the National Federation of Filipino American Associations, with Northern California Region 8.

Yet my work continued to feel the tug of a deeper calling, and I helped co-found the Center for Babaylan Studies.

Along the way, I have met and continue to meet wonderful and fascinating people whose stories I am compelled to capture.

Over time, I have explored how to show up in the world using the internet as a main base.

This site will focus on what is most important to me: helping people shine their light. There are many people who have stories to tell that will encourage and inspire. These are people I will call Masterpieces. My interviews with them, and thoughts on life will be contained in these pages. I hope you experience even a moment of light. And I thank you for visiting!

Peace and light to you,

Baylan