Choice and Mastery

It has been a choice. I have my reasons for taking time to respond to the violence and turbulence around the world in recent weeks. Racism, nuclear threat, violence in many forms have all significantly raised the level of anxiety and fear around the world.

And the young ones are watching and absorbing how we act in the face of such things.

Reading the thoughts shared by those I follow, and being aware of the messages riding the airwaves, I have been metaphorically sitting, observing, listening, thinking.

I ask myself, “What am I to share that will add to the mosaic being fed into our hearts and minds? What is my response-ability?”

Conscious Living: Being in the WorldIn recent weeks I have been around people teaching and practicing martial arts. In the training grounds, seeing the transmission of knowledge from teacher to student, and watching as these ideas spark into disciplined action has been a beautiful dynamic to behold.

They have reinforced my understanding of Life.

How the World Works

Thought and Feeling lead to Action which produces Results… that lead to Thought and Feeling that lead to New Action and produce New Results… and the spiral continues.

The differentiating factor in each cycle is that of Choice – the Decision made that leads from Thought and Feeling to Action. Choice can be made in a split second, and for many is unconscious. It often runs the well-worn path of choices practiced time and time again.

Martial Arts is about Self-Mastery

Today’s brief discussion with a friend about martial arts led me to say, “Martial Arts is about Self-Mastery.” Whether it is Western or Eastern or Southern or Northern style, the ability to respond to conflict entails preparation that engages the mind, the body, and the spirit.

On a day-to-day basis, I suspect people focus mostly on the physical aspects – how to get it right so the result is consistently the same. One could argue that you don’t have to think hard to get the same result once you know how it’s done.

Yet to master physicality, one must master the mind. As Mr. Miyagi showed us, to train the unconscious mind, one must practice and practice the body in order to get under/beyond the mind. Wax on, wax off, block right, block left – It is the same physical action demanded for split second reaction.

Stone Buddha with Grass by Baylan Megino

Beyond the Mind to Where the Divine Can Flow

How to get beyond the chatter of the mind, the inflexibility of the body, and the gatekeeper Ego?

Eventually, though not always, the focus, discipline and perseverance demand that the old guards give way. It is then that the flow of Spirit can occur.

This is where the Divine is allowed into consciousness (though it is always present in the background, waiting to be engaged) and where there is more synchronicity and ease.

In another conversation, a practitioner of meditation complained how she felt punished by having to meditate for 60 minutes, or 90 minutes. She has been meditating for decades, and had become tied to the structure of the meditation, at the expense of opening to her natural flow.

Well, perhaps I upended years of her practice, but I did not see any point in suffering further.

“Make a different choice,” I suggested. “If your goal is to connect with Source/Higher Being/Light/Universe/God, then open up and allow that connection to occur. Do not be rigid by telling yourself that it takes an hour to get there when in reality you are practiced enough to reach that space in fifteen minutes, or five, or less. Acknowledge where you are in your practice, and move forward from there.”

And suddenly the light poured through.

Gratitude Day 2 Connection to Spirit by Baylan Megino

It Is All A Choice

Once one has mastered the skills of any art – spiritual, creative, healing, martial, etc. – the moment of decision presents the choices one has available. In that moment, based on our knowledge and experience, we choose what to do, how to do it, how far to go. And in that moment, we are exposed, revealed, and self-defined.

I’m reminded that a wise person once said, “Choose your battles.” The world is changing in so many ways, so many arenas, so fast.

How do we act in that space of conflict, that moment of unconscious/conscious choice? It is a telling moment.

Some act in indignation or anger and push back.

Some retreat and stay out of the fray.

Some act with compassion and understanding.

Some wait to see how the situation evolves and watch as others jump in.

Some put more fuel on the fire.

Some stand their ground and hold fast, ready to respond should more force be required, or ready to stand down when the spark has passed.

Some step aside.

In recent weeks it has been hard for many to stand on the sidelines.

Choosing Change

Yet isn’t that how change occurs? We reach a point where we are compelled to speak, to make a choice, to change (or not) our response, to push for something (different) we believe in.

And the world shifts.

Maybe I’m getting older. Maybe I’m simply more aware of these things now than when I was focused on Rising to Meet Each Challenge, on Doing, on Succeeding, on Getting What I Want.

I’ve come to understand that each of us is here in this life with our own purpose to fulfill, and our own battles to fight – and we will fight them in whatever way we choose.

The question is, Do we fight them in the way we have Always fought them? Or do we fight them with newfound skills, knowledge, or heart?

The choices we make determine the trajectory of our actions and therefore the results we experience, the results the world experiences. Will we continue the cycle, or move up the spiral? Either way, our young ones will learn.


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How to Bust the Myth of Work-Life Balance: Align to Access Your State of Flow

It’s time to bust the myth of work-life balance and align to access your state of Flow. This is the year when you must stop trying to give equal time to these two different areas in your life, because it doesn’t really work, does it?

Your alignment of purpose, mindset, thought, intention, feelings, and actions are more important in your decision-making and manifesting processes. hen aligned, you experience what those in sports understand as Flow. The concept of Flow is something that athletes must master in order to perform at their peak – to be in that state of Flow.

Why Work-Life Balance Doesn’t Work

When it comes to your personal life and your business, you move from one focus to the other, constantly swimming between these worlds. In practice, you seldom combine or overlap them. You are always choosing and prioritizing one over the other. In making decisions this way, one side loses.

What if they weren’t separate, and not separate from you? What if you were able to hold all these as expressions of who you are?

Work-life balance is like Wheel Alignment Steering Before shows significant misalignment - by Baylan Megino

Wheel Alignment Steering Before shows significant misalignment – by Baylan Megino

How’s Your Alignment?

Now, I know that thought probably just triggered a lot of discomfort. You know immediately if your life, more specifically your sense of balance across the areas of your life, is not what you want it to be.

You might be unhappy in your personal relationships, or you might know you need more time spent on your physical health, or might need to expand your business. You might be struggling to find a way to juggle everything, but seem to never feel you have them all under control. You might just feel that something’s off and you can’t put your finger on it. Or you might have climbed the mountain only to find it is not the peak you had expected.

It’s okay. There is another way.

The Dream Maker’s Aligned Approach to Life

Work-life balance is not possible. Alignment makes everything move forward smoothly. Think of the tires on your car. You can drive when they are not in alignment, but the ride will be bumpy and you’ll struggle to steer your wheels straight toward your destination.

The difference of just a few degrees will negatively affect your equipment, and the experiential qualities of your journey.

When your tires are aligned, you can steer using one finger and will arrive feeling more at ease and focused. And so it is with life.

What’s Different About The Aligned Life

You can take an aligned approach to achieve that state where you flow easily from one focus to another.

This approach acknowledges that you are responsible for your experiences and works because you make conscious choices based on what is Most Important for you.

Here are the main pieces to activate this approach.

First, identify what is most important to you, what are your values, what are your must-haves in this life. These are more quality-focused, and not dependent on physical things or achievements.

Second, look at all areas of your life and assess how far off your alignment is in each area.

We add one important element that snaps them all into place. We add your connection to the spiritual realm – with your Higher Self and to Spirit/Source. This focuses you on the more intrinsic aspect of Being, rather than Doing.

Alignment with this connection shortens the time between having an aligned thought and actually seeing it materialize. Manifesting becomes fun when you Allow this element in.

How to Make the Shift to An Aligned Life

Now, getting back to that discomfort, you might find there are areas within your life that are not in alignment with what is important to you.

Clarity of focus and shifts in mindset and perspective may be all you need to get into alignment. Making consistent clear choices and taking consistent action toward your vision will make it happen.

When all elements of your life are aligned, all things flow smoothly because there is no conflict. Everything becomes a choice with a simple guideline.

 

Work-Life Balance is like Wheel Alignment Steering After

Wheel Alignment Steering After shows 100% alignment in steering wheels

How to Live an Aligned Life

For techies, it looks like this: Your master internal software continually scans and makes decisions using your binary code to align all decisions and actions toward your vision.

To put it more simply, here’s the breakdown of the Dream Maker Aligned Life approach that keeps you Aligned and in Your Flow. The whole process can take just a few seconds.

  • You have a vision of what you want to experience, and you can feel this vision as real.
  • You look at one area of your life, and you commit to taking action toward your vision in this area.
  • You scan to see your choices, and you determine which will bring you closer to your vision.
  • You look at how well it aligns with what’s important to you, and sense how you feel about it.
  • Consider if there is a better way.
  • You decide.
  • Then you take aligned action.
  • You let go and continue with the rest of your day
  • You Watch What Happens.

Now the fun starts because different things will come up. Thoughts and situations may occur to challenge your resolve, or to help you gain clarity on what you want. All strengthens your ultimate action

At every step of the way, align with your vision and keep your Most Important things in mind.

Try it today and let us know below how you’re doing in your Aligned Life!

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What Lies Within

You have such inner wisdom. Ralph Waldo Emerson nailed it when he said, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Whether you have been in business awhile, or are just starting to think about it, there is a creative notion inside you, big or small, that is asking to be let out into the world. It’s a message or creation that you are uniquely positioned to bring out into the world. You, and only you. Do you know what it is?

How to Access Your Inner Wisdom

Here’s an exercise that will help you access your inner wisdom and determine just what it is you are here on this planet to do right now.

Heart of Hearts 1 by Baylan Megino copyright 2002 fb

Heart of Hearts 1 by Baylan Megino copyright 2002

Take a few moments to relax your body and let go of any discomfort. Then open your sacred space. Just sit in the quiet. Pay attention to your breath, and allow your thoughts to flow. Most probably you’ll hear a jumble of thoughts, sometimes disparate, all urgent. Allow them all to float across the movie screen of your mind, and let them Exit out of your space.

When your mind has become quiet again, focus on the area of your heart. Ask your heart what it would like to share in this moment. Let the thoughts flow and, if you can, write them down.

Then ask what it would like you to do. Listen, and take note of all that comes to you.

Pick one thought that seems to float to the top of importance for you. Then ask yourself, how would I like this to show up in my world? What can I do to start to make this happen? Write down all your answers.

Then close your sacred space, and consider what steps you can take to make this happen. Do two or three of those activities today, and continue to do something consistently each day. You’ll be surprised at what happens.

Share your thoughts and let us know your results below.

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Masterpiece: When Love And Skill Work Together

Create Your Masterpiece: It is time to re-evaluate progress and direction for the rest of the year. To create a conscious life, John Ruskin reminds us,

“When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.”

Are you experiencing a masterpiece in your work and life?

When we started the year, we made some goals, defined where we want to be on December 31st, identified experiences we wanted to have. Then LIFE happened. As Dr. Phil would ask, “How’s that working for you?”

If while traveling your road you’ve hit some obstacles, perhaps it’s time to pause and take stock, to ask yourself if you’re still loving what you’re doing with your time and resources.

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John_Ruskin_1863 (b.1829-d.1915)

John Ruskin lived in the Victorian era, and was a leading English art critic, art patron, watercolorist, and a prominent social thinker and philanthropist, whose ideas laid the groundwork for environmentalism and sustainability. Per Wikipedia, “He wrote on subjects as varied as geology, architecture, myth, ornithology, literature, education, botany and political economy… In all of his writing, he emphasised the connections between nature, art and society. …Today, his ideas and concerns are widely recognised as having anticipated interest in environmentalism, sustainability and craft.”

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Time to Evaluate

If you’re not loving what you’re doing, it’s time to figure out ways to adjust or to reset so your actions put you on the trajectory you need to be on in order to arrive where you want to go.

Start by asking yourself:

  • What do I love to do?
  • What am I really good at doing?
  • How could I do what I love combined with doing what I’m really good at?
  • Why do I want to do this?
  • What feels right in my life?
  • What doesn’t feel right in my life or work?
  • What am I willing to do to change it?

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Time To Stop Working So Hard and Create Your Masterpiece

When we are doing what we love, the effort (if there is any) needed to accomplish something seems infinitely less than when we are doing what we “like” or what we have “become good at.”

Instead, figure out how to do what you love with the gifts that you have, with your many ways of brilliance. Get clear on Why you want to do it, so you can wake up every morning with that knowledge and clarity motivating your every movement.

When you offer the world this combination, that is when you experience MIRACLES.

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Masterpiece Living: A Beautiful Place to Rest 02303 by Baylan Megino

Masterpiece Living: A Beautiful Place to Rest 02303 by Baylan Megino

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Inspiration: Be the Light in the Darkness

Inspiration and hope in a time of darkness is like water in the desert. On one particular afternoon I was sitting quietly as I grabbed a few moments of peace in my jam-packed day of taking care of things for others. My thoughts immediately focused on wondering what was next in my life.

Be the Light in the Darkness by Baylan Megino

Be the Light in the Darkness by Baylan Megino

The last several years had been particularly difficult, because I had turned everything upside down. Stepped away from almost all I had built. Ended relationships that I knew couldn’t work anymore, no matter what I did. Let go of whatever pictures still remained of what I used to think I was. Transitioned from a comfortable life to one where I wasn’t sure how my next cellphone bill would be paid.

You might know what I was living. The decks were cleared and I didn’t quite know what was next.

“Be the Light in the Darkness”
reverberated in my mind.  

What?!?!? Give more? There wasn’t a whole lot left to give, I thought. A moment or two passed in silence as my mind rearranged to allow the thoughts to bubble up.

This wasn’t the first time I’d heard these words. In fact, the first time I heard them I felt burdened by the perceived weight of yet more responsibility. This time, however, I felt a new sense of clarity and space around the words.

My life had been a series of experiences, each presenting its own lessons to learn — hard won lessons, easy lessons, difficult lessons. Each time I uncovered another aspect of myself, or discovered a truth that helped guide my steps. It hadn’t been easy. I had a lot of layers to uncover, and I will continue to uncover more and more as time passes.

One thing I realized early on is that we choose what we bring forward with us, consciously or not. An inventory of my experiences and the lessons learned helped me realize I have a lot to offer.

Skills and talents, yes. Organizational visioning and strategy, yes.  Even more valuable are the life lessons and wisdom gathered along my path – the ways to navigate the unfamiliar while creating a more conscious life. Sharing that wisdom to help others — that’s how I can bring light into someone’s darkness.

I’m excited! More to come….

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