How to Bust the Myth of Work-Life Balance: Align to Access Your State of Flow

It’s time to bust the myth of work-life balance and align to access your state of Flow. This is the year when you must stop trying to give equal time to these two different areas in your life, because it doesn’t really work, does it?

Your alignment of purpose, mindset, thought, intention, feelings, and actions are more important in your decision-making and manifesting processes. hen aligned, you experience what those in sports understand as Flow. The concept of Flow is something that athletes must master in order to perform at their peak – to be in that state of Flow.

Why Work-Life Balance Doesn’t Work

When it comes to your personal life and your business, you move from one focus to the other, constantly swimming between these worlds. In practice, you seldom combine or overlap them. You are always choosing and prioritizing one over the other. In making decisions this way, one side loses.

What if they weren’t separate, and not separate from you? What if you were able to hold all these as expressions of who you are?

Work-life balance is like Wheel Alignment Steering Before shows significant misalignment - by Baylan Megino

Wheel Alignment Steering Before shows significant misalignment – by Baylan Megino

How’s Your Alignment?

Now, I know that thought probably just triggered a lot of discomfort. You know immediately if your life, more specifically your sense of balance across the areas of your life, is not what you want it to be.

You might be unhappy in your personal relationships, or you might know you need more time spent on your physical health, or might need to expand your business. You might be struggling to find a way to juggle everything, but seem to never feel you have them all under control. You might just feel that something’s off and you can’t put your finger on it. Or you might have climbed the mountain only to find it is not the peak you had expected.

It’s okay. There is another way.

The Dream Maker’s Aligned Approach to Life

Work-life balance is not possible. Alignment makes everything move forward smoothly. Think of the tires on your car. You can drive when they are not in alignment, but the ride will be bumpy and you’ll struggle to steer your wheels straight toward your destination.

The difference of just a few degrees will negatively affect your equipment, and the experiential qualities of your journey.

When your tires are aligned, you can steer using one finger and will arrive feeling more at ease and focused. And so it is with life.

What’s Different About The Aligned Life

You can take an aligned approach to achieve that state where you flow easily from one focus to another.

This approach acknowledges that you are responsible for your experiences and works because you make conscious choices based on what is Most Important for you.

Here are the main pieces to activate this approach.

First, identify what is most important to you, what are your values, what are your must-haves in this life. These are more quality-focused, and not dependent on physical things or achievements.

Second, look at all areas of your life and assess how far off your alignment is in each area.

We add one important element that snaps them all into place. We add your connection to the spiritual realm – with your Higher Self and to Spirit/Source. This focuses you on the more intrinsic aspect of Being, rather than Doing.

Alignment with this connection shortens the time between having an aligned thought and actually seeing it materialize. Manifesting becomes fun when you Allow this element in.

How to Make the Shift to An Aligned Life

Now, getting back to that discomfort, you might find there are areas within your life that are not in alignment with what is important to you.

Clarity of focus and shifts in mindset and perspective may be all you need to get into alignment. Making consistent clear choices and taking consistent action toward your vision will make it happen.

When all elements of your life are aligned, all things flow smoothly because there is no conflict. Everything becomes a choice with a simple guideline.

 

Work-Life Balance is like Wheel Alignment Steering After

Wheel Alignment Steering After shows 100% alignment in steering wheels

How to Live an Aligned Life

For techies, it looks like this: Your master internal software continually scans and makes decisions using your binary code to align all decisions and actions toward your vision.

To put it more simply, here’s the breakdown of the Dream Maker Aligned Life approach that keeps you Aligned and in Your Flow. The whole process can take just a few seconds.

  • You have a vision of what you want to experience, and you can feel this vision as real.
  • You look at one area of your life, and you commit to taking action toward your vision in this area.
  • You scan to see your choices, and you determine which will bring you closer to your vision.
  • You look at how well it aligns with what’s important to you, and sense how you feel about it.
  • Consider if there is a better way.
  • You decide.
  • Then you take aligned action.
  • You let go and continue with the rest of your day
  • You Watch What Happens.

Now the fun starts because different things will come up. Thoughts and situations may occur to challenge your resolve, or to help you gain clarity on what you want. All strengthens your ultimate action

At every step of the way, align with your vision and keep your Most Important things in mind.

Try it today and let us know below how you’re doing in your Aligned Life!

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What Lies Within

You have such inner wisdom. Ralph Waldo Emerson nailed it when he said, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Whether you have been in business awhile, or are just starting to think about it, there is a creative notion inside you, big or small, that is asking to be let out into the world. It’s a message or creation that you are uniquely positioned to bring out into the world. You, and only you. Do you know what it is?

How to Access Your Inner Wisdom

Here’s an exercise that will help you access your inner wisdom and determine just what it is you are here on this planet to do right now.

Heart of Hearts 1 by Baylan Megino copyright 2002 fb

Heart of Hearts 1 by Baylan Megino copyright 2002

Take a few moments to relax your body and let go of any discomfort. Then open your sacred space. Just sit in the quiet. Pay attention to your breath, and allow your thoughts to flow. Most probably you’ll hear a jumble of thoughts, sometimes disparate, all urgent. Allow them all to float across the movie screen of your mind, and let them Exit out of your space.

When your mind has become quiet again, focus on the area of your heart. Ask your heart what it would like to share in this moment. Let the thoughts flow and, if you can, write them down.

Then ask what it would like you to do. Listen, and take note of all that comes to you.

Pick one thought that seems to float to the top of importance for you. Then ask yourself, how would I like this to show up in my world? What can I do to start to make this happen? Write down all your answers.

Then close your sacred space, and consider what steps you can take to make this happen. Do two or three of those activities today, and continue to do something consistently each day. You’ll be surprised at what happens.

Share your thoughts and let us know your results below.

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Dream: Finding Your Dream

Dreams come to us in infinite ways, and often in pieces. One evening many years ago I was sitting in a women’s circle after a full day’s work. With a gentle smile, the leader asked us, “What’s your dream?” I froze.

Dream? I didn’t have a dream. I had things I was supposed to do in order to be seen as a responsible adult.

“What does your heart desire?” she pressed on. Her words seemed to float in the air for me to consider.

My heart? My desire? MY Heart’s Desire? Unfathomable.

I had been raised to think only of what I had to do to help everyone else. Nowhere was it ever okay to think of just myself, to the exclusion of everyone else.

So I dutifully tried to focus on my physical heart. “What do you want?” I asked, expecting a quick, straightforward answer.

Silence.

I sighed and waited. At that point in my life, my heart wasn’t used to being asked any questions, or being given any attention.

Took a deep breath to calm and center myself, then ventured again. “What do you want?” I asked, as if my heart was separate from me.

Silence again.

As I waited, I listened to the other women share their dreams – simple dreams, heart-anchored dreams, loving dreams.

Then a single word came to me. “Peace.”

Ah, yes!…. That’s what my heart desired. Peace.

Finding Your Dream by Baylan Megino

Finding Your Dream by Baylan Megino

Today I know that dreams often come to me in pieces, as words and phrases and images that catch my attention, or float in and out of my awareness.

I have to pay attention, or they could fly past me without notice.

Sometimes these help me to see what I DON’T want, so I can zero in on what I DO want.

These in turn are pieces and threads that, once woven together into a design I like, reveal the dream wanting my full focus.

So listen. See what is brought to your attention, and piece together the dream you are here for.

Let me know in the Comments below how you access your life dreams.

Blessings and Abundant Light,

Baylan Megino

 

How to Thrive: Wisdom from Steve Jobs

Lately there have been several people in my life who have been very ill, and more elders are passing to the other side. Mortality has crossed my mind more than a few times. Steve Jobs shared how to thrive:

“When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: ‘If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself, ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘no’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” 
– Steve Jobs

Looking around at my peers, this is the time when I should be getting ready to rest back and enjoy the fruits of my labors, wait for grandchildren, plan for a few vacations each year. However, I made several choices along the way that place me in what I call the “Late Bloomer” category.

Don’t get me wrong. I’ve done a lot of things in my life that have helped me grow, have stretched me, and that I’ve enjoyed. I’ve learned that failures have gemstones hidden in them that sparkle in the pursuit of new goals. My community work, helping people gain clarity in their lives and build their dreams, gathering stories and messages to inspire and empower others — these have brought me much happiness.

But life hasn’t been a straight line. It has been a winding road with lots of rocks to turn over and boulders to get around while building my muscles and gathering resources and clarity. Hard work and perseverance don’t deter me, but nowadays I prefer to find more leveraged ways of doing things whenever possible.

If Today Were The Last Day Of My Life Steve Jobs 07872 by Baylan Megino

If Today Were The Last Day Of My Life Steve Jobs 07872 by Baylan Megino

Relationships of all kinds have been the biggest challenge for me, because I have to show up. I’m sure there’s a trail behind me from when I’ve been too afraid to show up, to speak up, and to trust my value. And I gained wisdom from each one: how to be better, what I want (and don’t want), the importance of listening, the value of an open mind and heart, healing through compassion.

I wouldn’t change any of it, truthfully. I just refuse to let obstacles and setbacks get me down for long.

Steve Jobs had it right. Each day we have a choice to make. I ask myself,

Does what I am doing today bring me more of what I desire in life?

Even when I’m not clear on the details of my dreams, I know in my heart and in my body whether or not I’m moving in the right direction, building a life in which I will thrive. And if not, then I’m going in a different direction, and this must be noted. There’s a reason why I’m in this situation, and I’ll know when it’s time for a change.

There have been times in my life when I’ve had to sit on the sidelines while tending to others’ needs. There have been relationships to grow and nurture, knowledge to acquire, new skills to hone, wisdom to gather. In these situations, I’ve learned patience.

Everything in its own time.

Eventually a different choice must be made, and dynamics will shift. Life will begin to flow in a different direction. Change will be inevitable, and it will be time to dust off the wings and fly.

The Entrepreneur’s Journey: The Risk It Took To Blossom

The Entrepreneur’s Journey is not a straight path. Anais Nin wrote, “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

The Risk It Took To Blossom, photo by Baylan Megino

The Risk It Took To Blossom, photo by Baylan Megino

My life had a fairly straightforward beginning, and the American Dream was the lifestyle I was encouraged to build. By my early 30’s, I had the loving husband with a steady job, a family, a comfortable home, the cars, the great job. I even had community involvement under my belt.

But something was not right.

My normally happy, calm outlook had become spiked with occasional fits of temper, which confused me.

I sought help in understanding what was happening, and started seeing a counselor. Those sessions helped me to see myself and my situation with clearer vision and understanding.

LIfe had become an endless round of work – home – work – home – community – work … of fulfilling roles, obligations and  duties.

At one point in my life, I had sought refuge and solace in attending Mass every morning before attending classes. The calm, the routine structure, the expansive space, and the connection to God fed me deeply.

But at this point, my spiritual and life had become almost non-existent, because I was so busy taking care of everyone and everything else that I thought was important.

Wrong. It wasn’t working for me.

It was time for a major change, and managing relationship change was something that I was absolutely, positively not equipped for. After all, my mother married the man who took her on her first date! Though they remained faithfully married until his death 60 years later, I did not learn a healthy way to handle conflict in relationships.

The counseling sessions helped open the door for me to step back and start at Ground Zero — to look inside to find my thoughts and need for expression. Through painting and sculpture I discovered a hidden world within that showed me my feelings and the inner terrain of my being.

Through sharing I learned that I had something of value to express in the silence. Through writing I started to hear my own voice and to value the power of the word.

And through dance I had always been able to access my inner knowing.

I had opened the door to start exploring my life, to understand what I was all about and what I had built. Once that door was open, how I saw the world and how I navigated each moment would never be the same.

The tightly bound bud was starting to unfurl her petals.