How to Bust the Myth of Work-Life Balance: Align to Access Your State of Flow

It’s time to bust the myth of work-life balance and align to access your state of Flow. This is the year when you must stop trying to give equal time to these two different areas in your life, because it doesn’t really work, does it?

Your alignment of purpose, mindset, thought, intention, feelings, and actions are more important in your decision-making and manifesting processes. hen aligned, you experience what those in sports understand as Flow. The concept of Flow is something that athletes must master in order to perform at their peak – to be in that state of Flow.

Why Work-Life Balance Doesn’t Work

When it comes to your personal life and your business, you move from one focus to the other, constantly swimming between these worlds. In practice, you seldom combine or overlap them. You are always choosing and prioritizing one over the other. In making decisions this way, one side loses.

What if they weren’t separate, and not separate from you? What if you were able to hold all these as expressions of who you are?

Work-life balance is like Wheel Alignment Steering Before shows significant misalignment - by Baylan Megino

Wheel Alignment Steering Before shows significant misalignment – by Baylan Megino

How’s Your Alignment?

Now, I know that thought probably just triggered a lot of discomfort. You know immediately if your life, more specifically your sense of balance across the areas of your life, is not what you want it to be.

You might be unhappy in your personal relationships, or you might know you need more time spent on your physical health, or might need to expand your business. You might be struggling to find a way to juggle everything, but seem to never feel you have them all under control. You might just feel that something’s off and you can’t put your finger on it. Or you might have climbed the mountain only to find it is not the peak you had expected.

It’s okay. There is another way.

The Dream Maker’s Aligned Approach to Life

Work-life balance is not possible. Alignment makes everything move forward smoothly. Think of the tires on your car. You can drive when they are not in alignment, but the ride will be bumpy and you’ll struggle to steer your wheels straight toward your destination.

The difference of just a few degrees will negatively affect your equipment, and the experiential qualities of your journey.

When your tires are aligned, you can steer using one finger and will arrive feeling more at ease and focused. And so it is with life.

What’s Different About The Aligned Life

You can take an aligned approach to achieve that state where you flow easily from one focus to another.

This approach acknowledges that you are responsible for your experiences and works because you make conscious choices based on what is Most Important for you.

Here are the main pieces to activate this approach.

First, identify what is most important to you, what are your values, what are your must-haves in this life. These are more quality-focused, and not dependent on physical things or achievements.

Second, look at all areas of your life and assess how far off your alignment is in each area.

We add one important element that snaps them all into place. We add your connection to the spiritual realm – with your Higher Self and to Spirit/Source. This focuses you on the more intrinsic aspect of Being, rather than Doing.

Alignment with this connection shortens the time between having an aligned thought and actually seeing it materialize. Manifesting becomes fun when you Allow this element in.

How to Make the Shift to An Aligned Life

Now, getting back to that discomfort, you might find there are areas within your life that are not in alignment with what is important to you.

Clarity of focus and shifts in mindset and perspective may be all you need to get into alignment. Making consistent clear choices and taking consistent action toward your vision will make it happen.

When all elements of your life are aligned, all things flow smoothly because there is no conflict. Everything becomes a choice with a simple guideline.

 

Work-Life Balance is like Wheel Alignment Steering After

Wheel Alignment Steering After shows 100% alignment in steering wheels

How to Live an Aligned Life

For techies, it looks like this: Your master internal software continually scans and makes decisions using your binary code to align all decisions and actions toward your vision.

To put it more simply, here’s the breakdown of the Dream Maker Aligned Life approach that keeps you Aligned and in Your Flow. The whole process can take just a few seconds.

  • You have a vision of what you want to experience, and you can feel this vision as real.
  • You look at one area of your life, and you commit to taking action toward your vision in this area.
  • You scan to see your choices, and you determine which will bring you closer to your vision.
  • You look at how well it aligns with what’s important to you, and sense how you feel about it.
  • Consider if there is a better way.
  • You decide.
  • Then you take aligned action.
  • You let go and continue with the rest of your day
  • You Watch What Happens.

Now the fun starts because different things will come up. Thoughts and situations may occur to challenge your resolve, or to help you gain clarity on what you want. All strengthens your ultimate action

At every step of the way, align with your vision and keep your Most Important things in mind.

Try it today and let us know below how you’re doing in your Aligned Life!

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Daily Dream Maker: “Will This Matter A Year From Now?”

The Daily Dream Maker
by Baylan Megino

Will This Matter A Year From Now?

“Will this matter a year from now?

In our on-going desire to create a life of balance and harmony, sometimes we unconsciously take on more than we realize.

As you go through your day, notice  those things that perhaps someone else can do, or those things that don’t need to be done right away.

Make a choice whether it is for you or for someone else to do – today or later.

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Dream Maker: New Year Vision, Picnics and Being Prepared

For a Dream Maker, Having a Vision is only part of Being Prepared to Make that Vision Come True. In my life training to become a Dream Maker, I learned a good lesson when I was planning a picnic.

It was the first time I was in charge of making such a production. So many things to bring and needs to meet. Coordinating such a feat seemed almost overwhelming, but I wanted to make it a truly enjoyable experience for all of us.

I stood in the kitchen a bit at a loss, thoughts piling into multiple lists swirling through my head, not sure where to begin. My mother watched as I clearly struggled to make sense, grabbing items as I wandered from one end of the kitchen to the other.

By Unknown illustrator [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

“Outdoor Luncheon” By Unknown illustrator [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

“Imagine an empty table,” she suggested. “Then set the table with everything you need to have your meal and enjoy your day.”

Immediately I remembered long picnics at San Francisco’s Ocean Beach where dad surf-fished while we ran in and out of the waves. Or picnics with cousins at Alameda’s shoreline beach, our moms dutifully stationed at the combined picnic spot ready to meet our needs so we could continue with our important work of play.

In each instance, we were free to wander and enjoy because we always knew where to return for food, water, towels, bandaids, hugs, sunscreen, rest, and whatever else we needed.

Setting the table is the same as making sure you can implement your vision. You have an intention of the experience you want to provide. Then having all the tools and fuel and resources available that you anticipate will be needed ensures fewer delays in making your vision come true.

Whether you are planning your personal life or your career/business, here are some Dream Maker planning tips to have a successful new year:

  • Connect with your purpose in life and in your work.
  • Review what went well this year, and what needs improvement.
  • Dream where you want to be in two to three years, and strategize how to get there.
  • Define your vision for the new year.
  • Identify milestones and big goals for each quarter.
    • Break those goals down into smaller, achievable chunks.
  • Define what your client needs to experience before moving on to the next step.
    • Review your systems and walk through every step in detail.
    • Identify who you need to collaborate with in order to make each step happen successfully.
    • Identify resources needed and how you will have them in place.
  • Commit
    • to your clients.
    • to your bottom line.
    • to your life dream.

Prepare these main pieces to plan for your success in the new year.

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What Lies Within

You have such inner wisdom. Ralph Waldo Emerson nailed it when he said, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Whether you have been in business awhile, or are just starting to think about it, there is a creative notion inside you, big or small, that is asking to be let out into the world. It’s a message or creation that you are uniquely positioned to bring out into the world. You, and only you. Do you know what it is?

How to Access Your Inner Wisdom

Here’s an exercise that will help you access your inner wisdom and determine just what it is you are here on this planet to do right now.

Heart of Hearts 1 by Baylan Megino copyright 2002 fb

Heart of Hearts 1 by Baylan Megino copyright 2002

Take a few moments to relax your body and let go of any discomfort. Then open your sacred space. Just sit in the quiet. Pay attention to your breath, and allow your thoughts to flow. Most probably you’ll hear a jumble of thoughts, sometimes disparate, all urgent. Allow them all to float across the movie screen of your mind, and let them Exit out of your space.

When your mind has become quiet again, focus on the area of your heart. Ask your heart what it would like to share in this moment. Let the thoughts flow and, if you can, write them down.

Then ask what it would like you to do. Listen, and take note of all that comes to you.

Pick one thought that seems to float to the top of importance for you. Then ask yourself, how would I like this to show up in my world? What can I do to start to make this happen? Write down all your answers.

Then close your sacred space, and consider what steps you can take to make this happen. Do two or three of those activities today, and continue to do something consistently each day. You’ll be surprised at what happens.

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Letting Go and The Bodhisattva’s Way

Letting Go to Heal

In the last week, so many things have been breaking open to be revealed, to be healed. I’ve been letting go — to open the space for the new to come in, for the light to shine even brighter.

Letting Go and Bodhisattva Way 16th Karmapa 08213 by Baylan Megino

Letting Go and Bodhisattva Way 16th Karmapa 08213 by Baylan Megino

Opening boxes to find treasures and trash from years ago. Surprises and jewels mixed amongst the mundane. A handwritten will, a talisman, a watch. Sifting and sorting to find what will come forward, what will be passed on, and what will be discarded entirely.

It is a process. It takes time. It breaks open old memories. The good memories are treasured. And the painful ones are offered to be healed.

Letting Go and Moving On

Of course, something electronic had to go. This time it was the refrigerator controller. It’s challenging and freeing being without a refrigerator for more than two weeks.

Had to figure out how to keep perishables from perishing. Or learn to live without.

There are many boxes to be gone through. It will take time. And I am being gentle with myself and with mom.

And as I am moving forward, I am thinking of how to incorporate these pieces into my new work. How do we take those parts of our past and make them meaningful building blocks for our future? Ahhhh….. yes.

So today a dear friend posted a message that spoke to my heart, reminding me of the reason we go on, despite challenges and seemingly insurmountable odds.

“You keep going. That is the bodhisattva’s way. As long as it benefits even one being you have to, without any sense of discouragement, go on.” – 16th Karmapa

And as I finished preparing this photo, a hummingbird swooped under the eaves, seeking refuge from the constant rain.