Choice and Mastery

It has been a choice. I have my reasons for taking time to respond to the violence and turbulence around the world in recent weeks. Racism, nuclear threat, violence in many forms have all significantly raised the level of anxiety and fear around the world.

And the young ones are watching and absorbing how we act in the face of such things.

Reading the thoughts shared by those I follow, and being aware of the messages riding the airwaves, I have been metaphorically sitting, observing, listening, thinking.

I ask myself, “What am I to share that will add to the mosaic being fed into our hearts and minds? What is my response-ability?”

Conscious Living: Being in the WorldIn recent weeks I have been around people teaching and practicing martial arts. In the training grounds, seeing the transmission of knowledge from teacher to student, and watching as these ideas spark into disciplined action has been a beautiful dynamic to behold.

They have reinforced my understanding of Life.

How the World Works

Thought and Feeling lead to Action which produces Results… that lead to Thought and Feeling that lead to New Action and produce New Results… and the spiral continues.

The differentiating factor in each cycle is that of Choice – the Decision made that leads from Thought and Feeling to Action. Choice can be made in a split second, and for many is unconscious. It often runs the well-worn path of choices practiced time and time again.

Martial Arts is about Self-Mastery

Today’s brief discussion with a friend about martial arts led me to say, “Martial Arts is about Self-Mastery.” Whether it is Western or Eastern or Southern or Northern style, the ability to respond to conflict entails preparation that engages the mind, the body, and the spirit.

On a day-to-day basis, I suspect people focus mostly on the physical aspects – how to get it right so the result is consistently the same. One could argue that you don’t have to think hard to get the same result once you know how it’s done.

Yet to master physicality, one must master the mind. As Mr. Miyagi showed us, to train the unconscious mind, one must practice and practice the body in order to get under/beyond the mind. Wax on, wax off, block right, block left – It is the same physical action demanded for split second reaction.

Stone Buddha with Grass by Baylan Megino

Beyond the Mind to Where the Divine Can Flow

How to get beyond the chatter of the mind, the inflexibility of the body, and the gatekeeper Ego?

Eventually, though not always, the focus, discipline and perseverance demand that the old guards give way. It is then that the flow of Spirit can occur.

This is where the Divine is allowed into consciousness (though it is always present in the background, waiting to be engaged) and where there is more synchronicity and ease.

In another conversation, a practitioner of meditation complained how she felt punished by having to meditate for 60 minutes, or 90 minutes. She has been meditating for decades, and had become tied to the structure of the meditation, at the expense of opening to her natural flow.

Well, perhaps I upended years of her practice, but I did not see any point in suffering further.

“Make a different choice,” I suggested. “If your goal is to connect with Source/Higher Being/Light/Universe/God, then open up and allow that connection to occur. Do not be rigid by telling yourself that it takes an hour to get there when in reality you are practiced enough to reach that space in fifteen minutes, or five, or less. Acknowledge where you are in your practice, and move forward from there.”

And suddenly the light poured through.

Gratitude Day 2 Connection to Spirit by Baylan Megino

It Is All A Choice

Once one has mastered the skills of any art – spiritual, creative, healing, martial, etc. – the moment of decision presents the choices one has available. In that moment, based on our knowledge and experience, we choose what to do, how to do it, how far to go. And in that moment, we are exposed, revealed, and self-defined.

I’m reminded that a wise person once said, “Choose your battles.” The world is changing in so many ways, so many arenas, so fast.

How do we act in that space of conflict, that moment of unconscious/conscious choice? It is a telling moment.

Some act in indignation or anger and push back.

Some retreat and stay out of the fray.

Some act with compassion and understanding.

Some wait to see how the situation evolves and watch as others jump in.

Some put more fuel on the fire.

Some stand their ground and hold fast, ready to respond should more force be required, or ready to stand down when the spark has passed.

Some step aside.

In recent weeks it has been hard for many to stand on the sidelines.

Choosing Change

Yet isn’t that how change occurs? We reach a point where we are compelled to speak, to make a choice, to change (or not) our response, to push for something (different) we believe in.

And the world shifts.

Maybe I’m getting older. Maybe I’m simply more aware of these things now than when I was focused on Rising to Meet Each Challenge, on Doing, on Succeeding, on Getting What I Want.

I’ve come to understand that each of us is here in this life with our own purpose to fulfill, and our own battles to fight – and we will fight them in whatever way we choose.

The question is, Do we fight them in the way we have Always fought them? Or do we fight them with newfound skills, knowledge, or heart?

The choices we make determine the trajectory of our actions and therefore the results we experience, the results the world experiences. Will we continue the cycle, or move up the spiral? Either way, our young ones will learn.


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How to Bust the Myth of Work-Life Balance: Align to Access Your State of Flow

It’s time to bust the myth of work-life balance and align to access your state of Flow. This is the year when you must stop trying to give equal time to these two different areas in your life, because it doesn’t really work, does it?

Your alignment of purpose, mindset, thought, intention, feelings, and actions are more important in your decision-making and manifesting processes. hen aligned, you experience what those in sports understand as Flow. The concept of Flow is something that athletes must master in order to perform at their peak – to be in that state of Flow.

Why Work-Life Balance Doesn’t Work

When it comes to your personal life and your business, you move from one focus to the other, constantly swimming between these worlds. In practice, you seldom combine or overlap them. You are always choosing and prioritizing one over the other. In making decisions this way, one side loses.

What if they weren’t separate, and not separate from you? What if you were able to hold all these as expressions of who you are?

Work-life balance is like Wheel Alignment Steering Before shows significant misalignment - by Baylan Megino

Wheel Alignment Steering Before shows significant misalignment – by Baylan Megino

How’s Your Alignment?

Now, I know that thought probably just triggered a lot of discomfort. You know immediately if your life, more specifically your sense of balance across the areas of your life, is not what you want it to be.

You might be unhappy in your personal relationships, or you might know you need more time spent on your physical health, or might need to expand your business. You might be struggling to find a way to juggle everything, but seem to never feel you have them all under control. You might just feel that something’s off and you can’t put your finger on it. Or you might have climbed the mountain only to find it is not the peak you had expected.

It’s okay. There is another way.

The Dream Maker’s Aligned Approach to Life

Work-life balance is not possible. Alignment makes everything move forward smoothly. Think of the tires on your car. You can drive when they are not in alignment, but the ride will be bumpy and you’ll struggle to steer your wheels straight toward your destination.

The difference of just a few degrees will negatively affect your equipment, and the experiential qualities of your journey.

When your tires are aligned, you can steer using one finger and will arrive feeling more at ease and focused. And so it is with life.

What’s Different About The Aligned Life

You can take an aligned approach to achieve that state where you flow easily from one focus to another.

This approach acknowledges that you are responsible for your experiences and works because you make conscious choices based on what is Most Important for you.

Here are the main pieces to activate this approach.

First, identify what is most important to you, what are your values, what are your must-haves in this life. These are more quality-focused, and not dependent on physical things or achievements.

Second, look at all areas of your life and assess how far off your alignment is in each area.

We add one important element that snaps them all into place. We add your connection to the spiritual realm – with your Higher Self and to Spirit/Source. This focuses you on the more intrinsic aspect of Being, rather than Doing.

Alignment with this connection shortens the time between having an aligned thought and actually seeing it materialize. Manifesting becomes fun when you Allow this element in.

How to Make the Shift to An Aligned Life

Now, getting back to that discomfort, you might find there are areas within your life that are not in alignment with what is important to you.

Clarity of focus and shifts in mindset and perspective may be all you need to get into alignment. Making consistent clear choices and taking consistent action toward your vision will make it happen.

When all elements of your life are aligned, all things flow smoothly because there is no conflict. Everything becomes a choice with a simple guideline.

 

Work-Life Balance is like Wheel Alignment Steering After

Wheel Alignment Steering After shows 100% alignment in steering wheels

How to Live an Aligned Life

For techies, it looks like this: Your master internal software continually scans and makes decisions using your binary code to align all decisions and actions toward your vision.

To put it more simply, here’s the breakdown of the Dream Maker Aligned Life approach that keeps you Aligned and in Your Flow. The whole process can take just a few seconds.

  • You have a vision of what you want to experience, and you can feel this vision as real.
  • You look at one area of your life, and you commit to taking action toward your vision in this area.
  • You scan to see your choices, and you determine which will bring you closer to your vision.
  • You look at how well it aligns with what’s important to you, and sense how you feel about it.
  • Consider if there is a better way.
  • You decide.
  • Then you take aligned action.
  • You let go and continue with the rest of your day
  • You Watch What Happens.

Now the fun starts because different things will come up. Thoughts and situations may occur to challenge your resolve, or to help you gain clarity on what you want. All strengthens your ultimate action

At every step of the way, align with your vision and keep your Most Important things in mind.

Try it today and let us know below how you’re doing in your Aligned Life!

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Daily Dream Maker: “Will This Matter A Year From Now?”

The Daily Dream Maker
by Baylan Megino

Will This Matter A Year From Now?

“Will this matter a year from now?

In our on-going desire to create a life of balance and harmony, sometimes we unconsciously take on more than we realize.

As you go through your day, notice  those things that perhaps someone else can do, or those things that don’t need to be done right away.

Make a choice whether it is for you or for someone else to do – today or later.

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Dream Maker: New Year Vision, Picnics and Being Prepared

For a Dream Maker, Having a Vision is only part of Being Prepared to Make that Vision Come True. In my life training to become a Dream Maker, I learned a good lesson when I was planning a picnic.

It was the first time I was in charge of making such a production. So many things to bring and needs to meet. Coordinating such a feat seemed almost overwhelming, but I wanted to make it a truly enjoyable experience for all of us.

I stood in the kitchen a bit at a loss, thoughts piling into multiple lists swirling through my head, not sure where to begin. My mother watched as I clearly struggled to make sense, grabbing items as I wandered from one end of the kitchen to the other.

By Unknown illustrator [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

“Outdoor Luncheon” By Unknown illustrator [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

“Imagine an empty table,” she suggested. “Then set the table with everything you need to have your meal and enjoy your day.”

Immediately I remembered long picnics at San Francisco’s Ocean Beach where dad surf-fished while we ran in and out of the waves. Or picnics with cousins at Alameda’s shoreline beach, our moms dutifully stationed at the combined picnic spot ready to meet our needs so we could continue with our important work of play.

In each instance, we were free to wander and enjoy because we always knew where to return for food, water, towels, bandaids, hugs, sunscreen, rest, and whatever else we needed.

Setting the table is the same as making sure you can implement your vision. You have an intention of the experience you want to provide. Then having all the tools and fuel and resources available that you anticipate will be needed ensures fewer delays in making your vision come true.

Whether you are planning your personal life or your career/business, here are some Dream Maker planning tips to have a successful new year:

  • Connect with your purpose in life and in your work.
  • Review what went well this year, and what needs improvement.
  • Dream where you want to be in two to three years, and strategize how to get there.
  • Define your vision for the new year.
  • Identify milestones and big goals for each quarter.
    • Break those goals down into smaller, achievable chunks.
  • Define what your client needs to experience before moving on to the next step.
    • Review your systems and walk through every step in detail.
    • Identify who you need to collaborate with in order to make each step happen successfully.
    • Identify resources needed and how you will have them in place.
  • Commit
    • to your clients.
    • to your bottom line.
    • to your life dream.

Prepare these main pieces to plan for your success in the new year.

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What Lies Within

You have such inner wisdom. Ralph Waldo Emerson nailed it when he said, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Whether you have been in business awhile, or are just starting to think about it, there is a creative notion inside you, big or small, that is asking to be let out into the world. It’s a message or creation that you are uniquely positioned to bring out into the world. You, and only you. Do you know what it is?

How to Access Your Inner Wisdom

Here’s an exercise that will help you access your inner wisdom and determine just what it is you are here on this planet to do right now.

Heart of Hearts 1 by Baylan Megino copyright 2002 fb

Heart of Hearts 1 by Baylan Megino copyright 2002

Take a few moments to relax your body and let go of any discomfort. Then open your sacred space. Just sit in the quiet. Pay attention to your breath, and allow your thoughts to flow. Most probably you’ll hear a jumble of thoughts, sometimes disparate, all urgent. Allow them all to float across the movie screen of your mind, and let them Exit out of your space.

When your mind has become quiet again, focus on the area of your heart. Ask your heart what it would like to share in this moment. Let the thoughts flow and, if you can, write them down.

Then ask what it would like you to do. Listen, and take note of all that comes to you.

Pick one thought that seems to float to the top of importance for you. Then ask yourself, how would I like this to show up in my world? What can I do to start to make this happen? Write down all your answers.

Then close your sacred space, and consider what steps you can take to make this happen. Do two or three of those activities today, and continue to do something consistently each day. You’ll be surprised at what happens.

Share your thoughts and let us know your results below.

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